As I type this post, a friend of mine has given her boyfriend till midnight to contact her otherwise she’ll consider their relationship done. Now, why do I say men and their wahala? Apparently, the guy has left her no choice than to take drastic actions by giving this ultimatum.
So the gist be say, this girl, who I go call ‘Love Jones’ and this boy, who I go call ‘Loner Chap’ {the names sound weird to me too but hey, na my story not yours so keep reading if you like} have known each other for a very long time but started dating last year. Love Jones was hopelessly in love with Loner Chap and she wasn’t afraid of letting him know how much {na she first talk I love you sef, then the boy come take cue}. Loner also loved Love and she believed him when he said so even though sometimes, according to her, his actions gave her cause for concern {me sef I wonder about the contradiction}.
Anyway, these two chappies are in love (make I never say ‘were’ as time never reach for verdict) and they always talked about their life together, the number of kids they’ll have, how many rooms they’ll have in their first house …you know that kind of gist na. Everything was perfect, no sense of impending doom until one gloomy Saturday evening o.
Loner had texted her to say he was getting in some weird mood cos of some issues he was having {by the way, these two people live states apart}. She, as a caring girlfriend, tried to encourage and support him through whatever decisions he decided to make and of course promised to be there for him, no matter what. The babe come de send messages o, the guy no de respond. She come de call bobo, e no gree answer..haba….all through that night till the next afternoon, no response to all her attempts at reaching him o..she vex send am email {apparently, the guy de do like that sometimes but always responded no later than the next day}. Email wey she send, bobo no gree reply o. by midnight on Sunday, babe don dey frantic with fear and worry. She de call Loner, e no de gree ansa phone.
Next day, she called his office and asked to speak with him, Loner answered and promised to call her back later that evening so they’ll talk but never did. This pissed her off real bad, so she decided to ignore him. One week down, no communication between Love and Loner. She started to worry again because it was unusual for him to stay away that long. She called his cells, sent text msgs, email, no response. She became frantic again and then called his office. When she heard his voice and knew he was alright, she hung up without saying much to him {probably silly on her part..told her as much}. Another week, two weeks passed, no word from Loner o, then she calls his office again. This time she asked that they talk and like before he said of course but that he’ll call her back as he had stuff he was working on. Your guess is very correct, Loner never called. Na im the chic send the bobo email (4 weeks since all this started and no word from Loner), baring her soul in it and then ended it with the ultimatum.
Please make una help me access this situation o. Is this decision she took the right one? What would be the best action to take if you were in her shoes? Me I think, she’s on the right track because I see how this whole fiasco has affected her and it is definitely not healthy.
I know you’ll be thinking this is a case of maybe the guy is seeing someone else, but she’s almost convinced he isn’t and this is also not a case of maybe she did something to warrant such behavior. Love and Loner are crazy in love with each other even as at the last conversation that gloomy day {well according to her o, so let us assume everything she’s told me is the truth}.
So me I just de think, men get too many issues jare…you no show them love, them go say u de too cold or too de form hard babe…you show them love, them go say you de too emotional or behave like this one now…
Which ones sef ehn?!…wetin una get to say for this matter?!
